There is an art and science to the balancing act of a successful hardworking mother of six. Balancing the boardroom, conquering the stages and cheering the loudest in the basketball stands. Its not easy, but somebody’s got to do it!
There is a an art and science to both. The home should also run like a business when it comes to schedules, routines, and making a commitment to have designated family quality time. Don’t forget the husband too, plus the cooking and cleaning.
How do you fit it all in? Dr. Pooler manages a successful Educational Consulting Firm, is a motivational speaker for At-Risk Youth and Author of “The Cards of Life” with four new book titles contracting for publishing this year.
How do you balance life, work, kids, husband, house duties, and have time for yourself?
Personally, I reward myself with meditation, yoga, a long walk or run, spa getaways after completing a big project. I give myself permission to listen to loud music and sing off key. Live in the moment and not stress out. It changes NOTHING! Commit to a family night once a week. Check the schedules and see which day works best to commit to a family game, movie, favorite meal or a night out. Plan and schedule time to check kids grades at least once a week, email teachers, and talk to your kids about what’s going on in their world.
At some point work has to turn off “find the balance of this”. Have a designated time that the phone is in a whole entirely different room. Silencing it doesn’t help when you see it buzzing and become distracted from text. I promise you the building will still stand if you don’t answer. If you are off of work and with the family –Be off from work and with the family.
Relationships– don’t forget the hubby or significant other. Make TIME for one another. Again NO phones, NO distractions. Catch a old movie, cuddle in the bed, listen to some throw back music, indulge in each others company.
Lets not forget about the job. It is how we eat. Right? Develop a schedule and keep to it. Do one or two things at a time well rather than four simultaneously haphazardly. Designate time for email check and reply as needed, Schedule a time for phone calls and return calls as needed. Prioritize what’s important from what’s really important. Try to remove yourself from the side bar conversations. I find while people keep talking to you thoughout the day distracting you from what has to be done. Your stuck staying afterwork playing catch up and they are long gone home. Stick to the point when conversing with others. Do the work, Do it right the first time and you won’t have to re-do it later.
Many say well Dr. Pooler, If I turn off my phone and avoid people during the day, how do I connect with staff and co-workers. Easy plan that too. Be strategic, schedule time to mingle, ask about the kids and family when the timing is appropriate. Remember birthdays, anniversaries and holidays. However, if the aforementioned in a part of practice all staff members can be on the same page. Let’s be effective, efficient, and make time for the bonding and fun stuff when if counts and matters. Schedule team building and time for staff hangouts AFTER the work is done and the GOALS are met.
Simply put its The BALANCING ACT of Art and Science, self-reflect on what you need to do to improve in parenting, relationships, personally and in the workplace. Develop a plan based on the reflection and stick to it! Share it and hold each other accountable for it.
Dr. Erica Pooler